“How many times do I want to tell you? Do not talk with your mouthful!”
And, since we utter these words, we immediately change the food in our mouths to the deepest recesses of our lips so as to not eliminate any of it.
“Slow down and chew, do you?”
We state since we gulp down another mouthful of food that managed to get out of our fork into our gullet with our hardly noticing it, or tasting it.
We complete as we sink gratefully on the couch and turn the TV or radio.
“It will not hurt you to walk. I used to have to walk far longer when I was your age”
As we plan our errands with the automobile to consume the least of our precious free time as you can.
We’re so good at giving advice, indeed, we’re masters at it. It’s our job as responsible parents and responsible adults to fix and enhance the manners of those younger than us (or equal to us, or elderly to us). It’s our mission, our driving energy, our right, our responsibility.
Yes, it’s extremely important that we direct and help others along the way, particularly our children or dependents.
And children, particularly, catch on soon. I told her she could not have some chocolate, that sweet things all of the time weren’t great for her, she could have some fruit when she was hungry. A moment later, as I was savoring the minty chocolate in my mouth, I felt small eyes… And had to think of an explanation, quickly.
Since that time, I have been watching my speech (verbal and non-verbal) and made sure that, as much as possible, I don’t send out conflicting messages. These ‘little white lies’ which people use daily. Sure, the odd one still slips out, but the majority of the time that I say things which can’t be replicated at a time or place which will have me standing in complete mortification.
It’s difficult work and requires breaking and changing habits, but the earlier you begin practicing what you preach, the sooner the message will come across as sincere and one to be followed, rather than you to be obtained around one way or another or spoken out of half truths (or half lies).
Perhaps your kids will not thank you for it, Stuart Rat Removal, but soon you’ll be thanking yourselves for this.